But then as no one is going to question me on why I chose to write on this topic.....I m gonna write on Live-in relationships...
What do you think of Live in relationships???
This is the definition i got from answers.com... It has been termed differently...Cohabitation...
"A living arrangement in which an unmarried couple live together in a long-term relationship that resembles a marriage."
Note that point...resembles a marriage...
Then what exactly is the difference between a live-in and a marriage???
People say its commitment...but dont live-ins have an element of committment??? U don walk into ur home one day to see ur partner gone...u expect him/her to be there for u...
A live in relationship essentially lacks a legal document which binds people together...
I ve heard ppl say in a live in, u can get out of the relationship as and when u like...I mean..no hassles...no chains...
But that is simplified evn in wedlock by the concept of divorce...It is legalized separation as a break off in a relationship...
Is there full commitment in a live-in??? I don know...What if the 2 find out they were'nt made for each other n decide to move out...Won this little thought creep into their minds everytime they r together??? N will that giv them the satisfication of a long term committed relationship???If it does..then y do ppl marry at all??? After years of living together, couples marry..legalize the relationship...to have kids, they say....
Is there security in a live-in??? Okay, 2 people are comfortable in each other's company... n then there is the issue of fidelity...If there is no surety of 2 ppl eventually marrying,then will they remain faithful to each other???
But wats the point in makin a big issue out of live-in's when u can easily get married and get a divorce once u find the match is not compatible....
And a trial run...its demeaning...
Like my friend said...
"but i kinda belive that trying on a new dress is not the best way to pick the best one..u jus have to trust ur instincts n buy it..it may be tight or loose but its wat u liked"
(These words came frm my friend Nitz(formerly The Devil) -I loved those words of his and I m puttin them here with his permission....)
As far as I am concerned...live ins are not a substitute to marriage and should not be taken as lightly as a date....People who are scared of commitment cannot make a live-in relation successful either...
I know my whole post sounds ridiculous...Do bear with me...When i started writin this post,I was actually okay with the idea of a live-in...although in a country like ours with its people full of morals,ethics and values...It seems impossible that one day Live-in relationships wud become acceptable...
I had initially thot of takin an unbiased stand...But as I began thinkin of the idea...there seemed no basis for its existance...Now the whole idea of a live in seems foolish to me...
"It is explained that all relationships require a little give and take. This is untrue...Any partnership demands that we give and give and give and at the last, as we flop into our graves exhausted,we are told that we didn't give enough."- Quentin Crisp.
1 comment:
Loved the way you tried to understand n explain such complicated thing as Live-in or marriage. But I definitely disagree comparing it to buying a dress. Can we ever compare our life partner to a dress?
On a different note, whether Live-In or Marriage, it depends basically on the couple in question. And how many marriages have we seen drastically failing?
Now a day even in traditional families the concept of bonding period is there where in the couple is given a license to move freely after engagement as if they are married. Some ppl keep the period as six months and some as one year. Isn’t it a way of knowing each other?
And what about most Love marriages? People who know the real meaning of Love marriage will never marry after first sight. They will have a proper time to check the compatibility and attachment. Isn’t it a way of knowing each other?
Whatever may be the way but ppl now a days are marrying only after knowing the partner thoroughly and keenly.
And as you said a beautiful and long lasting relation can be attained only when u give more importance to giving than expecting.
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